White men black women dating: Is the choice to cross over an emotional
struggle?
When confronted by an irate reader’s closing remark “I can tell; you’re one of those women
with a white boyfriend”, Sandy Banks says in a recent article in the LA Times:
“I was...
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White men black women dating: Is the choice to cross over an emotional
struggle?
When confronted by an irate reader’s closing remark “I can tell; you’re one of those women
with a white boyfriend”, Sandy Banks says in a recent article in the LA Times:
“I was pleased to be able to rally back: “My boyfriend is black.
” Take that.
But I was also
grateful that her challenge hadn’t come the year before.
Then I would have been guilty as
charged, of being one of those women with a white boyfriend… I recall feeling vaguely
ashamed at being so blatantly called out; and relieved that I had reclaimed my place in the
sisterhood by landing an acceptable mate.
It wasn’t until years later — when that relationship was done and I was surveying the pool
of eligible men — that I had to ask myself, what does “one of those women” mean? And
how is it that my romantic choices somehow publicly brand me?”
Sandy Banks is a sister to the infamous Stanford professor Rick Banks and writer of the book
“Is Marriag
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